The exchange of energy

This weekend Lisa and I got to spend some time with a friend who we have not been able to see for almost 2 years. Long story short He was in an accident where someone died and he was found responsible. We were finally approved for visits, so we went just as soon as we could.
Last night I was thinking about how odd we were in the visiting room. Most of the others were talking non stop or when they were done the visitors left. Lisa and I stayed the WHOLE time and we talked but we also just sat together. As I was thinking about it we were talking the whole time but not with words. Our energies were mingling and making sure that he was okay. We left with a feeling that is unlike any other. We knew we would be there for him no matter how long, but now we know that this is doable, and that he is still him, while this has changed him he is growing from it not sinking in it. He is using the situation to make him a stronger person and is looking back on what happened with clearer eyes. Seeing what he did and did not do that led to the accident (and I am not talking about that night but other things that he did not see as an issue then, but now can see it was the first step that led him to the choices that led to the accident).
The part that makes me sad is that his partner of MANY years is not able to see him. I know that she is upset that we can and she cannot but I don't think that she knows that we wish she could. I hope that we can find away to get her approval also. I know that would help both of them.

Thinking about the energy has given me a new way of thinking about talking and while I have known about this for a long time and am a firm believer in its use. I have a new understanding of it. Energy is alive, it is a thing you can't 100% control. But intention is everything. If you are doing something that you do not want to be doing your energy will tattle on you, if you are resistant to what is going on your energy will show it... If you are doing something for the right reasons your energy will show it. This unspoken language is something not everyone can listen to, and the amount that a person can read varies. I am reasonable but I am not an expert in it, I am still learning, growing and experiencing. While we were visiting I saw people who were there because they felt they needed to be there, those that were doing something because they felt bad for the person, and people who were there because they wanted to be. Those that were there for the right reasons were more animated and seemed to have fun. Their energy was bubbly and happy, not sullen and grumpy. we made those that were not there for the right reasons a little more uncomfortable.. oops... we were not trying to, but our energies were more dominate in the small space.
As I try to type out my thoughts on the use of energy for communication, I am seeing that they are not yet solid, but they are coming together. I think I need to spend more time on this thought before it is something that I can explain to others in a way that is understandable. So there will be more to follow on this when the thoughts gel more...